Intimacy and Other Things Part I

Whoo—hoo! It’s my turn at the Scorcher Blog Tour…what to talk about, what…to…talk…about…?Got it—Sex.

Now everyone who doesn’t read romance is positive that all romances are all filled with heaving bosoms, enlarged members, and ahem…all sorts of sweaty, sweaty sex. And I guess they are to a certain extent. But there’s a lot more that goes into those scenes than the average person realizes.

As you know there are a lot of different sexuality levels in romance novels. There are sweet romances, sexy, spicy, hot, and erotica (which is a nice way of saying “set the sheets on fire”). And these are just a few of the tags editors and publishers give them.

But they all have one thing in common—they all support the stages of intimacy.

Wait a minute…there are stages? Yep. There are 12 of them. Or at least that’s what I’ve been taught. But when I started doing a little research for this blog I came across all sorts of numbers—8, 10, 14, and the ever popular 12. I’m going to talk about the 12.

12 stages, that seems like a lot, and most people would say, “I don’t remember that many steps when I was dating.” Oh, they were there, you just may not have recognized them for what they were. See, it takes a lot more than a pretty smile and a squirt of Binaca to get someone to trust another person enough to share the most intimate of pleasures with them. But enough of that, you want to know what the stages are, dontcha?

Well, you’ll have to go to Lisa’s blog to find out! (I know I’m evil. But this is a blog tour, so get goin’)

Lisa Sanchez’s blog—


14 thoughts on “Intimacy and Other Things Part I

  1. What a great topic to talk about. I had no idea that there were so many stages! This could be valuablle info for me personally, but also professionally since I am a therapist and, though not a sex therapist, I deal with intimacy and trust issues all the time. Thanks for starting this great discussion.
    marajbrandon AT gmail DOT com

  2. I’m glad you enjoyed it. I thought it was really interesting too, how we connect with each other in basically the same ways even though we are all so different. Hope you made it to the other blogs! Good luck in the contest! :)

    1. I heard someone talk about it long ago, and it just stuck with me. Most of them are logical, but the hand to head things still intrigues me. Thanks for stopping in! :)

  3. What a fun subject. You got me hooked Amy and I am on my way to Lisa to discover the 12 stages. Twelve?! wow. I’m counting, let’s see: look, smile, touch hand, hmm… Let’s see how Lisa counts them.

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